Black Men Our Sense of Over Self-Importance is 'Ego-Tripping'

 by KenRaySun

Becoming ‘wiser’ as a Black man over the years I had to confront my ‘ego’ sense of over self-importance.

 
I remember decades ago having a mature ‘grown man’ self-reflection scenario moment of 'humility' where my mind said to me peep this: you’re married with several children under 5 years old and you die. 

The wife you had will remarry and your children will eventually call her new husband ‘daddy’.

Let’s say he moved in the house you invested in and the cars you left’ - he’ll sleep and have sex in your bed and drive your vehicles. If he’s the same size as you he can wear all of the nice coats, clothes, suits, and shoes you left.

I realized coming out of that self-reflection moment I can be ‘replaced’ by death or divorce; and what you think you 'own' you ultimately don't!

 
I can also lose material things because of being fired or laid-off. I remember when I was a teenager a wise street Brother told me don’t ever say you’re out of work ‘unemployed’, because he said it’s always plenty of 'self-improvement' work to be done on yourself; he also told me to learn to live with self-worth from the 'inside out'.

 
Yes, out of that self-reflection moment I had a mindset ‘Black manhood priority’ self-development focus; a purposeful dedication shift of inner work of conscious raising, character development, cultural reclamation, and self-determination.