Unfortunately too Many Black Folks Don't Live Purposeful Lives.

by Kenray Sunyaru

As a Black man life has shown me that unfortunately too many Black folks don't live purposeful lives. Indeed so many Black folks confuse obligations for purpose. 

Though the chattel form of slavery is over most of us today totally accept being obligated to serve whites interests: obliged to their country, obliged to their pledge of allegiance, obliged to their racism, obliged to their military, obliged to their voting system as symbolic freedom, obliged to their religion, obliged to their holidays; 

Obliged to their company's, obliged to their jobs, obliged to obtaining their titles/degrees, obliged to constantly pursuing their version of the so-called American dream, obliged biggest purchasers of their consumer products, obliged to playing their lottery games, obliged to using their dope, obliged to harming each other, obliged to live their cultural creation of us, etc. 

So eventually when all of our obligations to them come to an end are we obliged to their notion of a life after death. The inescapable question is what's our purpose'?

Another Unarmed Black Person Killed in Their Home by White Police

White police in Texas again kill another unarmed Black person in their home, one more case of being gun down in your home while Black - let us protest, demand full justice, and save that forgiveness talk!

Too Many Black Folks Are Too Concerned With Forgiving Instead of Demanding Full Racial Justice!

by Kenray Sunyaru

From my perspective too many Black Christians are caught-up in forgiveness; they got too much 'theology', what they need to understand is some 'psychology' to address their inappropriate behavior of internalized racism.

Their inappropriate behavior of forgiving a racist convicted criminal cop Amber Guyger as if she was a victim; that white people are still 'right' deserve empathy even when their dead 'wrong'. Because of forgiveness white skin superiority is never fully wrong on earth and so shall it be in heaven. 

Do you think white people and white police in Dallas forgave the Black man Micah Johnson for killing those 5 white officers there in 2016 - NO! Being conscious of Black history I'm not shocked at the present behavior of too many Black folks forgiving Guyger the killer kop. 

As much I honor and respect Dr. Martin Luther King's bold leadership I had an issue 'differed' with his forgiving attitude toward the racist police who murdered Jimmie Lee Jackson. 

On February 26, 1965, Alabama civil rights activist Jimmie Lee Jackson died after he was brutally beaten and shot by Alabama State Trooper James Bonard Fowler during a peaceful voting rights march. Fowler was indicted and plead guilty to misdemeanor manslaughter. He was sentenced to six months in prison.

After Jackson's funeral at the cemetery King spoke about forgiveness and love; he pleaded with Black people to pray for the police; to forgive the murderer and to forgive those who were persecuting them. King ended by telling everyone to hold hands and sing “We Shall Overcome.”

Indeed King was struggling internally between the theology of forgiveness and racial justice. Many young Black civil right activists differed with King like Kwame Toure (Stokely Carmichael), Jamil Al-Amin (H. Rap Brown), and many other SNCC participants; they extolled self-defense and justice, not forgiving racist oppressors and murderers.

Black Christians will quote that vengeance is the Lord's, for me forgiving racist murdering police is for the Lord. Amber Guyger should have been sentenced to the 28 years that the prosecution wanted, but the Black jurors, the Black judge, and Botham Jean's own family did not want full justice.

Michael Drejka a white Florida man who was found guilty of manslaughter in killing of an unarmed Black man Markeis McGlockton was sentenced to 20 years in prison - Drejka didn't get a hug from the white judge.

Unlike Botham Jean's family there was no hugging and forgiving this white murderer, McGlockton's father, Michael McGlockton Sr., told Drejka that "he killed his only biological son and that because of you, our lives will never be the same. You deserve to die in prison, in the Bible it says that in order to get into heaven we must forgive those who trespass against us. At this point in my life I am not there yet. And if it just so happens that the Lord chooses to take me before I come to terms with this, then I will see you in hell, where you and I will finish this. Mark my words."

Black Mentacide: Forgiving White Racist Cop Murderer Amber Guyger

by Kenray Sunyaru

Malcolm X during a speech chided Black folks for forgiving white racist lynching terrorist, he stated Black folks will say Lord forgive them because they know not what they do, Malcolm responded by saying they are experts in what they do ‘lynching Blacks’.

Amber Guyger the racist Dallas police officer convicted of the murder of Botham Jean are experts in murdering Black men! Many Black folks like Botham’s brother and judge Tammy Kemp giving forgiveness hugs to Guyger have become experts at forgiving murderous white racists.

Botham’s father went beyond just forgiving Guyger stating he would like to become her friend. For Botham's brother and father Amber Guyger became a white murderous enchantress they became mesmerized by - they forgot about Botham's murder; they wanted to hold Guyger and know the blond assassin better; you know they wanted to 'get' with her.

A Black female bailiff stroked Guyger's hair to comfort her - what neo-slave madness; Ancestor Dr. Francis Cress Welsing point blank said: "Forgiving whites for acts of racism is a mental illness on the part of Black people." 

I can’t imagine seeing a white brother and white female judge hug a Black female cop after being convicted of murdering a white male. When Blacks murder Blacks I don’t see the victims family and Black judges hugging the Black convicted murderers and forgiving them.

Chauncey Devega states this about Black forgiveness: 

“The expectation that Black people will always and immediately forgive the violence done to them by the State, or individual white people, is a bizarre and sick American ritual. The necropolis of Black bodies in the Age of Obama provides many examples of the ritual. Less than a month after her son Samuel Dubose was executed by a thug cop, his mother, Audrey Dubose was asked during a press conference, if she forgave Ray Tensing. She answered “I can forgive him. I can forgive anybody. God forgave us." After Dylann Roof massacred nine Black Americans in a Charleston, South Carolina church their families were asked to forgive the white racist terrorist. Rituals reinforce social norms, values, and beliefs. Rituals can empower some groups and individuals; rituals can also serve to weaken and oppress others. The ritual of immediate and expected Black forgiveness for the historic and contemporary suffering visited upon the black community by White America reflects the complexities of the color line. The African-American church is also central to the Black American ritual of forgiveness. A belief in fantastical and mythological beings was used to fuel struggle and resistance in a long march of liberation and dignity against white supremacy, injustice, and degradation. The notion of “Christian forgiveness” as taught by the Black church could also be a practical means of self-medication, one designed to stave off existential malaise, and to heal oneself in the face of the quotidian struggles of life under American Apartheid. Likewise, some used Christianity and the Black church to teach passivity and weakness in the face of white terrorism because some great reward supposedly awaits those who suffer on Earth. The public mask of public black forgiveness and peace was also a tool that was used during the long Black Freedom Struggle as a means of demonstrating the honor, humanity, dignity, and civic virtue of Black Americans--a group who only wanted their just and paid for in blood (and free labor) civil rights. The ritual of immediate and expected Black forgiveness fulfills the expectations of the White Gaze and the White Racial Frame. A lack of empathy from White America towards Black America is central to the ritual: if white folks could truly feel the pain of Black people in these times of meanness, cruelty, and violence, then immediate forgiveness would not be an expectation. Many white Americans actually believe that Black people are superhuman, magical, and do not feel pain. This cannot help but to somehow factor into the public ritual of Black people saying “I forgive” the violence visited upon them by white cops, paramilitaries, hate mongers, bureaucrats, and the State."

Manly Advice For Women to Improve Their Relationships With Men

by Kenny Anderson

Ladies, let me say this in my life as a man, 30 years as a social worker including specializing in marriage and relationship counseling, I’ve never heard too many woman admit that they contributed to a break up with a man. 

The overwhelming majority of women have said they were perfect, they were totally innocent, they were the victims of his wrong doing, that they are Ms. Right all they needed to do is find - meet Mr. Right.

As a man, ladies we’re often wrong in relationships with women, however for the sake of a bigger truth we need to begin detaching the myth of women as always being Ms. Right.

Ladies, yes you all have many positive sides but you all also have negative sides; as men we see this negative side, many ignore it, while many men just abandon the relationship because of this negativity with out closure due to a sense of futility. 

Indeed men experience the negative side of women expressed in controlling, manipulating, nagging, pettiness, selfishness, ungrateful, toxic emotions, unrealistic thinking and expectations.

Ladies as long as you all hold on to this absolute sense of yall’s perfectionism of being Ms. Right, then you all can never see or admit when you’re wrong. 

When you’re perfect you won’t engage in self-examination, self-criticism, or self-correction; women being perfect results in a double-standard: men are always wrong I’m right, he needs to change but I don’t need to change; this notion of women not needing to change is what many men resent.

        Ladies stop calling women all the time to complain about men; most will only male-bash, re-enforce, and co-sign your complaints, and tell you what you want to hear instead of objectively 'honestly' what you need to hear about your own faults and shortcomings that contribute to failed relationships. 

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Sagging Pants: Dress Expression or a Crime

The sagging pants expression of many young Black males in America is still a phenomena in 2019 and continues to be controversial and debated. 

Back in 2008 inside the City Council Chamber of Pontiac (Michigan) City Hall there was a panel discussion debate ‘Sagging Pants: Dress Expression or a Crime’. 

The panel discussion was sponsored by the Greater Detroit Michigan Chapter of Concerned Black Men, it included community leaders: Bruce Turpin of Pontiac Youth Assistance, Quincy Stewart of Concerned Black Men, Poet Kenny Corr, Eugene Davis of Project HOPE, Kenny Anderson of Concerned Black Men, and Educational Consultant Richard Clay. 

The panel discussion was moderated by James Ellout of Concerned Black Men. The panel discussion empowered viewers with a thorough and diverse analysis of the sagging pants phenomenon that has swept across America. 

The real origins of sagging, the true aims of anti-sagging laws, controversial dress expression throughout Black history, and strategies for addressing the root causes of sagging are some of the many featured topics.

Black Folks Negative Beliefs

by KenRay SunYaru 

The destruction of Black folks mind 'mentacide' was a mindframe set in place by white supremacist plantation owners based on inferiority complex (self-hatred) and dependent personality to keep our enslaved Ancestors self-contained: from rebelling and escaping.

Mentacide was also 'cognitive distortion' that included psychological subterfuge and false beliefs. Mentally Black folks suffer from false negative beliefs that we have about society and ourselves that are untrue, distorted, slanted, and tainted; this warped thinking has limited us historically both collectively and individually.

Black people's negative beliefs are more likely to be reinforced by the prevailing negative beliefs support they receive from so many other Black folks in response to an erroneous belief or subjective opinion of theirs rather than by logic, objectivity, reasoning, scientific data, and historical facts.

On the plantation slave owners allowed slaves to spread false rumors to create confusion and discord. Today besides white propaganda Black folks through Facebook and Youtube saturate each other with confusing misinformation, slander, lies, half-truths, wishful notions, illogical thinking, false narratives, conspiracy theories, and negative beliefs.

The following our some current prevailing Black negative 'erroneous' beliefs:

*That whites are invincible
*That whites are the standard of excellence
*That whites want racial equality
*That in order to advance we need white support
*That in order to be successful you have to be recognized, certified, and endorsed by whites
*That we are our own worst enemy more than white supremacy
*That we are not from Africa we're Native Americans and slavery didn't happen
*That non-Blacks are really our allies
*That non-Blacks need our money more that we do
*That it's all about buying 'being a consumer slave'
*That you only have a real name when you have white designer name brands
*That voting will free us
*That white politicians will save us
*That Black politicians will free us
*That Black celebrities, actors, entertainers, rappers, and professional athletes will economically save us
*That Dr. King made us free forever
*That President Obama reflected a post-racial America
*That America is not racist - Donald Trump is causing racism
*That Black messianic leaders will save us
*That Black preachers are closer to God

*That Jesus alone is going to save us from racism, poverty, unemployment, homelessness, bad health, etc.

*That the religions of Jews, Europeans, and Arabs (Judaism, Christianity, and Islam) are superior to African spiritual systems

*That constantly debating about religion is more important than building a united front for self-determination
*That practicing African-Centered culture and spirituality alone without power will save us
*That 'Black Lives Matter' without making it matter
*That getting college degrees is going to liberate us
*That economically all we need is a 'good job'
*That Black gangs and thugs run the streets of America
*That being called a nigga is okay
*That if you criticize Black criminals who exploit Black folks you're a 'player hater' 
*That shooting fire-arms, going to jail or prison makes you a man

*That being a Black man is all about the 4Ds: your 'dick', your 'dollars', chains your 'dangling', and what your 'driving'

*That 'knowing' is the same as 'doing'
*That 'talking' is the same as 'action'
*That 'others' and 'things' will make you happy
*That you don't have to change, accept me the way I am
*That as a Black woman there's nothing ever been wrong with me - 'I'm always right' (perfect) and Black men have been all wrong, I just need to meet Mr. Right

*That the only personal change I need in my life as a Black woman is a wig, weave, or plastic surgery (new booty)

*That same-sex relations are better, Black men are just sperm-donors
*That a Black man should not be strong, he should think like a woman and dress up like them too
*That strong Black women are too challenging
*That non-Black women are better
*That having a white woman makes you equal to a white man
*That Black women should only look good and be sexy
*That being obese aint unhealthy, to tell folks they should lose weight to better their health is 'fat shaming'
*That being healthy is just having a medical insurance card and relying on a doctor
*That it's not our unhealthy lifestyle choices that cause premature deaths it's God's will - we were called home
*That constructive criticism is wrong 'only God can judge me'
*That you don't have to reap what you sow
*That making excuses exempts you from being responsible
*That others have to tolerate your negative bullshit
*That the rampant individualism of 'you do you' and 'I'll do me' is progressive thinking
*That all ideas are equal in truth
*That beliefs and opinions are above facts
*That conspiracy thinking is the same as logic and critical analysis
*That just blaming others is a solution
*That everybody owes me 'sense of entitlement'
*That loving me is enabling my fucked-up behavior and feeling sorry for me due to my self-inflicting mishaps
*That 'tough love' is not love, only weak 'overlooking' and 'enabling' love' is true love
*That I'm your child and didn't ask to be here so if I become an irresponsible adult you have to take care of me forever